How To Have An Affair Without Getting Caught


How To Have An Affair Without Getting Caught

So, you are married or in an otherwise committed relationship, but your desire is to stray. While you want to stray, you don’t want to get caught. So what do you do? The tips below will help to reduce your odds of getting caught, by taking a strategic approach to cheating. 

Cheat On Purpose

One of the most common mistakes that cheaters make, is cheating spontaneously—cheating with a random person you come across without second thought. If you are going to cheat, you need to be thoughtful about it. Ideally, in an arrangement where it is understood that the encounter is casual. And, never with someone at work.

Define Your Cheating Goals

You need to define what you goal of cheating is, love or sex. In most cases you are looking for a physical relationship. If you are looking for a relationship and sex, things can get even trickery—because you both may get attached. However, if you are hanging in with your spouse for the sake of the kids, then love may be what you are looking for. 

Consider Cheating With A Cheater

If the person you have an affair with is also in a committed relationship, then not getting caught is of greater importance to you both. You’ll have less to worry about in regard to explaining your limitations, and you will both be searching for ways to keep your affair under wraps.

Join An Affair Website

One of the great things about the digital age we live in, is that it is easier than ever to cheat without getting caught. An excellent place to find your casual intimate interests is on affair websites where discretion is of top priority. Other members are often committed, or they are singles looking for casual sex, a sugar daddy, or cougar who wants to spice things up. 

Keep Things Impersonal

Whether you are looking for a one-night stand, a go-to hookup, or an ongoing affair—it is best to keep things as impersonal as possible. In fact, it’s best to create a false persona:


  • Use a fake name, or at least a fake last name.
  • Never share where you work or live.
  • Don’t discuss your spouse or kids.
  • Always pay for hotels with a prepaid debit card or in cash.
  • Never give out your home phone, and only use a smartphone with a trusted cheater. Alternatively, use a privacy app.
  • Never give or accept gifts.

Set Clear Boundaries

While the idea of having one dedicated affair is appealing, it is more difficult to stay emotionally detached. Whether you have a go-to affair, or multiple flings—set clear boundaries regarding:

  • How often you hook up.
  • How much time you spend together per sexy session.
  • How you would respond if you ran into one another in public.

When Suspicion Arises

If your husband, wife, or committed partner starts to seem suspicious—it’s time to call it quits, or at least cool it for a while. As diligent as you may be with keeping your affair under wraps, they know you better than anyone else, so the slightest change can cause suspicion to arise. 

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Peter McIntyre

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Peter McIntyre is a charismatic dating blogger who offers practical advice and relatable insights on modern romance.

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